Felice Shays

Where respect, sex, tenderness, straight talk, laughter, and safety intersect is where you'll find Felice Shays; she's a sex and BDSM educator and counselor who travels the US and Canada. Newly relocated to Portland OR, this Brooklyn Femme has presented at a plethora of events for about a decade including Good For Her, Black Rose, Pacific Friction, Dark Odyssey, Babeland, LSM, TES, Kinky Kollege, Wicked Womyn, Shebop, KinkFest, Safer SM, Sugar, Tribal Fire, MOB, Come As You Are, The Exiles, Desire, Thunder In The Mountains, Kinky Kollege, and IMsL. Named Dark Odyssey's Campers' Choice: Favorite Presenter, Felice also stirs up trouble as a sex and BDSM event producer, performance artist, and ASL interpreter.

Bio Current as of Feb 1, 2011

2011 Presentations:

Playing in Dangerous Neighborhoods: Advanced Rough Sex
Face slapping. Teeth sinking into flesh. Kicking someone when he's down. Gang bangs, Knives going where god never intended them to go. Fists flying. Rape. Fingers gripping. Gasping for breath. Forced blow jobs. Crawling and begging…

If combining these things with pre-negotiation and full consent sound white hot, then you, sweet pervert, want Rough Sex.

With humor, affection, straight talk, and smarts, Felice Shays will discuss and demonstrate techniques from her Brutal Affection class: slam, slap, kick, and punch, yet THIS time the emphasis will be on how to combine them with killer sex techniques.
We will also explore emotional limits and release, safety, partnered positions, group scenarios, head space, anatomy, dirty talk, and helpful items. And finally, Felice will share provocative techniques on how to find your own desire and how to push through fears that might be preventing you from discovering new sexual and sensual highs.
Yeah, we're talking SEX. Sweet, raunchy, bring it SEX.

This is an (optional) interactive class for all genders, bodies, physical abilities, and levels of experience. Although based on Felice's Brutal Affection class, you do not have had to attended that one to rock this one.

Strap-on Play For You and Your Lover
She penetrates he.
She penetrates she.
He penetrates he.
He penetrates she.
They penetrates them.
Regardless of what you've got going on in your underwear, there are throngs of us who love to wield dildos to bring their partners to breathtaking ecstasy. Hot only begins to describe the sensuous adventure that using a harness (strap-on) and dildo or buttplug is.
But which strap? Which dildo? Which orifice? What's all this fuss about buttplugs? And really, how do you do it, anyway?

With humor, clarity, and straight talk, sex educator and coach Felice Shays will guide you through how to choose gear, communicate with your partner, provide tips and techniques for being penetrated with ease and pleasure, build confidence in the giver, explain how to assuage the receiver's fears, discuss butt facts, myths, safety and cleanliness, and loads more.

Expand your sexual horizons, fulfill roles and fantasies, dress the gender you know yourself to be, find new ways to fill hungry holes, and deepen your intimacy and ways of communicating with your lover.
Come discover the delicious world of better sex with harnesses and dildos!

Open to all genders.

What's Fuck Got To Do With It?: Working Your Hands & Mouth
Why is it we always arrive at intercourse as the "Grand Finale" of sex?
How do we climb out of The Jaws of Predictability?
How do we tell our partners we want them to refresh their technique?
How do we vanquish that stifling distinction between foreplay and intercourse? It's all sex, after all. And hopefully…Great sex!

The answer? Using your mouth and your hands in surprising and sexy ways that will make the genitals and penetration just two more lovely pieces of the sex prize, but not the Holy Grail.

For this brand new class, Felice has culled scads of tips and techniques to make your sex stronger, long-lasting, more tender, unpredictable, challenging, fun, and of course, hot. She will help you to figure out how to get what you want - and then to be able to communicate that to your partners.
Spark that amazing sex toy between your ears and use your brain to bring you to new sexual highs.

This workshop is for everyone:
Who uses "fuck" as the period of the lovemaking sentence instead of as a comma.
Who wants to lean and practice new techniques of touch with you mouth and hands
Who sometimes feel stuck in routine
Who desire to play with power
Who crave creativity in their sex play
Who see their hands as pre-packaged sex toys!

Open to all genders and sexual appetites!

2007 Presentations:

Fantasy and Filth: The Art of Sex Speak and Role Play
Hey there sailor. So, you have a burning desire to get tied up and be taken hostage? Or maybe you are the principal at an all girl's school aching to dish out the discipline? Or are you one of the girls needing that discipline? Or maybe you dream of being someone else when you enter the club or enter the bedroom. Through discussion, humor, exercises, writing and demonstrations, long time performance artist and sex educator Felice Shays will give you the soup to nuts tools you need to create and carry out your wildest and naughtiest fantasies. In this class you will learn how to get the sex you want: explore your own desires, discuss your fears and fantasies with your partners, use props and costumes, shape your language and tone to get and give what you want, explore gender and age play, and approach the most taboo and socially condemned roles and fantasies.
Leave your judgments at home, and let's get to it. Open to all genders.

Brutal Affections: Punching, Kicking, Slapping and Sex
It ain't about the brawn. Regardless of your size, gender, or physical ability, this highly interactive workshop uses scads of demonstrations to teach you fierce, passionate methods of slam, slap and thud. Learn to use your brain and a multitude of body parts to bring you and your partners to new found levels of physical, sensual, sexual intensity and intimacy. With humor, affection, straight talk, and smarts, Felice Shays will discuss and demonstrate technique, safety,
partnered positions, head space, anatomy, and helpful items. Also, as time allows, Felice will work with individuals, dyads and other combinations of partners to resolve their dilemmas of inequity of size, status, attitude or muscle.
Open to all genders, all physical abilities, and all levels of experience.

Vaginal Fisting
Vaginal fisting is an incredible experience; beautiful, sexy, powerful, piggish, spiritual, and intimate. Felice will teach you how to fist and/or receive a fist with care, awareness, skill and respect. First a guided tour of anatomy and then watch as Felice makes it happen - a live disappearance of a hand into a lucky someone's cunt (will Felice give? Receive?). Lube, double fisting, special positions, and fisting while bound and/or suspended will also be discussed.
Open to all genders.

Sucking (Non Bio) Cock
A blow job on a dildo…why? Simply put, fellatio is hot and sexy regardless of whether that cock is attached by nature or a harness or a pair of briefs; by birth or by identity.

At first glance, sucking off a dildo may seem to be simply about that silicone cock and a mouth.
Nope. In this workshop we will discuss the anatomy of the body and of the mind, different methods sure to drive anyone out of their heads and various ways to recognize and respect people's need for limits regarding touch.
Open to all genders.